Saturday, 12 May 2012


Earlier this week, I forget which day, I begrudgingly got up in the morning as usual, made a cup of tea and turned my computer on. First stop: Facebook. Sad I know, but true none the less. A friend had posted a link to an article about Against Me! lead singer Tom Gabel. Being my joint favourite band of all time (tied with Death Cab for Cutie) I naturally clicked the link to have a read. What I read in that article was not something I was expecting, and made for mind blowing reading at 8am...

Tom has been dealing with gender dysphoria all of his life and is now going to begin living as a woman. She will go by the name Laura Jane Grace and begin taking hormones and undergoing electrolysis treatments. After a year living as a woman she will decide whether or not to undergo sexual-reassignment surgery.

Holy shit!

My first thoughts were of a selfish nature, "What about Against Me!? Will this change his voice?!? or her voice?!? Will the band stay together? etc etc". I didn't need to worry. The band are staying together. Apparently her voice won't change all that much either, not yet anyway. Even if it does, it doesn't matter. In her own words "However fierce our band was in the past, imagine me, six-foot-two, in heels, fucking screaming into someone's face." - She can scream into my face any day.

I loved Tom Gabel before I read this news. Singers of punk bands are usually dicks, but Tom is not only an amazing songwriter but a genuinely nice person. And that voice. Fuck, that voice gets my blood pumping. I love Laura even more than I loved Tom. I can't begin to imagine how tough it must have been to tell your wife that you want to become a woman, let alone how she must have felt. The fucking brilliant thing is that they are staying together. She isn't attracted to men, it isn't about that, and she supports her decision fully. That's fucking love right there. To stand by someone no matter what, even a sex change. If only we could all be so lucky.

I can't get my head around the courage it must have taken to come out like this. I have nothing but admiration and respect for you, Laura. I tend to hero worship people for ridiculous reasons, but I feel justified in saying that you are my hero, you are an inspiration, and if I had even an ounce of the courage and strength that you possess I would be a happy man. You may not want them anymore but you've got bigger balls than any person I have known!

"There is an ocean in my soul,
where the waters do not curve."
- Laura Jane Grace, The Ocean


  1. I fully agree with you. It must've taken a lot of courage and strength! Kudos!

  2. Against Me! were on a constant (ish) loop when I was 16. As it happens with albums/bands you listen to all the time, you sort of stop for a while and before you know it, it's been years.

    I suppose it's a happy coincidence that I found all my albums in a box the same week that Laura Gabel showed up on my feed.

    It makes me so incredibly joyous when someone I admire, whose skill and talent I appreciate/envy; proves just how fucking awesome they are. It takes a lot of courage- especially in the current environment where we're slowly regressing on human rights- to speak up, bare your soul; your identity. It takes a lot of 'knowing who you are' and that can't have been easy for her, the past few years. I'm also awed by how utterly supportive her partner has been through this; as well as her bandmates.

    I've had Reinventing Axl Rose and as the Eternal Cowboy on repeat these past few days.

  3. Love this post! It sounds like a lot of other fans have been equally as supportive of Laura, and I think that's just so darn cool and important.