Thursday, 14 February 2013

MEET ME IN MONTAUK

Today, as I'm sure you're well aware, is Valentine's Day. The one day of the year when you are supposed to show the one you love just how much you love them. By showering them with gifts and whispering sweet nothings and, for dudes, hoping to hell you get laid at the end of it all. Luckily for me I don't have to put up with the bullshit façade this year. For the first time in five years and I am free. I believe the whole concept of Valentine's Day is a crock of shit. To quote a line from my favourite film of all time:

"Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap." - Joel Barish, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

My sentiments exactly, Joel. Eternal Sunshine came out in 2004. I can't freakin' believe it has been nine years already. NINE YEARS. The film that changed my life. It made me want to become a writer. It made me want to fall in love. It made me want to be Joel Barish and it made me want to meet Clementine Krasinski. Nine years later and I'm not Joel, I'm still Martin. I haven't met Clementine, she doesn't exist. I may not be a full time writer, I may still need a day job to survive, but I'm getting there. One word at a time.

I could write an entire essay about why I love Eternal Sunshine and why I hate Valentine's Day but I won't bore you with all that. Whatever you do today, enjoy the shit out of it. And that person you love the most, if you're lucky enough to have somebody to love and whom reciprocates that feeling, love the shit out of them. And show them. But do it every day. Not just today. Don't take that shit for granted because it may not last forever.

Tonight I am going to watch Eternal Sunshine, with a cup of tea, and I will still recognise myself in Joel Barish and I will still want to meet Clementine and I'm still a writer and I'll still want to fall in love. But I'll be happy. And someday, somewhere, somebody will ask me to meet them in Montauk.

11 comments:

  1. I love Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. I always forget to mention it in my favorites list.

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    1. It blows my mind. Every time. And I've seen it like 50 times.

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  2. Honestly, I've never gotten through that movie...I was really trying to get over someone when it came out and just sitting down to start it made me feel sick. As for the holiday, I don't think it was manufactured by card companies--I think it was co-opted, an important distinction, to my mind.
    You're spot on with the love them everyday biz. In fact before reading this I just tweeted: Show don't tell; good advice for writers, great advice for lovers.
    All day everyday.
    Protip for the next time you're in love and feeling amours on V-day: have sex before you go out to dinner. In this way, you increase your chances of feeling in love (chemicals, man) and actually being relaxed. Plus, you can eat all those rich foods without worry of burping in someone's face--or worse!

    Also I'm really proud of you for writing, façade with the "ç" You sir, are quite the sir.

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    1. I am truly thankful for your sage-like wisdom, Erin. That sounds way condescending, but it's a legit sentiment.

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  3. Dat movie. <3 Definitely ranks high on the list. It's so incredibly depressing but absolutely beautiful at the same time. I try to watch it at least twice a year.

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    1. It is definitely the most cynical yet equally romantic film ever made. I literally don't know where I'd be without it.

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    2. Somewhere not a melted pile of goo? Or maybe that's just my feeling post-watching it. XD

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  4. That movie amazes me every time I watch it. So romantic, yet so real.

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  5. I agree, that movie is pure awesome :D

    Also, I say make your own holiday, and forget the official one! Me and my husband choose to celebrate our love after Feb 14 - this way we can get each other gobs of discounted chocolate anyway ^-^

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  6. It just dawned on me the other day that it's been 9 years since that movie came out. It was one of the first movies to really impact me in an emotional way and it changed the way I watched movies (I was 14 when it came out, so naturally I didn't have a lot of cinematic knowledge). I need to break out that DVD again. It's been too long.

    And yeah, Valentine's Day can suck a big one.

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  7. That is one of the few movies that I can watch over and over and it's still just as amazing every time.

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